Friday, May 23, 2014
Private and Public Self.
For this post, explain something that you understand about yourself that other people may not understand or even know is true about you. Another way of asking this is: what is true about your private self that people don't see publicly? Why do you think this part of yourself doesn't translate well?
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It's very hard to explain myself to some people. It's very frustrating because I feel like people judge me way too much before actually getting to know me. I feel like everybody sees me as that "nerdy" girl, that cares only about grades and school. That is very true, because education comes first. Though, I actually do care about other things too. My life doesn't revolve around what anyone thinks about me, it really doesn't matter how they see me, because their opinion is not as important as mine. I believe that people look at me and think that I'm very quiet and relaxed person, when really, I have my moments of being serious, and my moments of not being so serious. It really depends on the situation that I'm in. Maybe because I hold everything to myself, and don't show much of my personality, that people don't see that private part of me very well. It's good to be different, to have some things about you that you don't want to show, because when you show too much, you end up losing some of your own self. Saving some of that private self, so people don't see it through your public self, is good to keep some of it to you, and only you. I hold my feelings inside, and that can translate into being selfish sometimes, when really, I'm just trying to keep my public self and private self similar, but not equal.
ReplyDeleteOne think about myself that i know is i am a private person to most people but i am also outgoing when i am with my friends. When i meet people for the first time i am very shy and quiet but once i get to know them i am very oiutgoing. When people first meet me they think of me as quiet until i get to know them. Even when i am with my friends i tend to keep my private life or emotions to myself. I just feel as though things that are meant to be private should be kept to yourself and not forced upon people around me.Sometimes people think of me as quiet but i just keep to myself a lot especially when i first meet people
ReplyDeleteEveryone has something about themselves that nobody knows about or does not understand about them. Something about myself that not many people know and I do not share publicly is that I can be very outgoing at times. Depending on who I'm with at the time determines how outgoing I am. Generally if I'm comfortable with the people around me, whether it is in a classroom at school, or when I am with friends or family, I will talk quite a bit more than I normally would. In school there are only a few classes that I really participate in infront of the class or to answer questions. An example would be how in math I answer the questions that my teacher asks and try to volenteer to do things on the board because I am comfortable with the people in that class. But in a class, such as chemistry, I tend to not say very much because I am not as comfortable with the subject. However, when I am around my family or friends or even certain people I just met I can be very talkative and outgoing. I feel that this quality about me is not expressed as much because in elementary school you are taught to not raise your hand unless you know the answer, and nobody cared if you got it wrong because we were so young. But when you get to high school you become more cautious about what you say because you do not want to be judged and teachers grade a lot harsher in high school based on how much you particiate and what you say when you do. I feel that this is why people think I am shy when I really can be outgoing at times.
ReplyDeletei have really bad anxiety about friendships, becuase i had a bad expireience in middle school that made me distrust people more. thats why in the blog post previous to this one i was saying how im really cautious with who i trust or not. i try my hardest to be nice to everyone regardless if i trust them or not. But to myself and to my close frienmds know who i keep an eye out for. i make sure i dont go telling secrets and stories to people that may not even care what happend to me they just care aboiut the story. but i always ask my friends if theyre mad at me or if i did something wrong. They always say no, and ya it gets annoying sometimes when i ask, i just feel less anxious when i hear no you didnt do anything wrong, bc then i feel i dont have to worry. Like i get worried about everything i do, and its not becuase my friends make me feel that way, but i make myself feel that way.
ReplyDeletePeople always seem to think that just because I’m and a quiet girl who doesn’t speak up in class and keeps to herself, that I’m automatically smart. I must have good grades and be a problem solver. I must be a leader and know all the answers to everything. That is almost the opposite of what I really am. I am not smart. I can’t do mathematics to save my life and science confuses me to the point of my head hurting. It feels like the only things I’m any good at are the arts and I’m constantly screwing up my drawings and when I sing my voice will crack. My writing has only gotten worse over the past few years and I don’t know how to feel about my acting. Just because I’m quiet people seem to think I pay attention in class, when really I daydream constantly. I make up scenes in my head about what I could be doing in my life. Maybe if I cared a little more I could do better but its just so hard to care about things that you don’t enjoy. At least for me that is the case. People should never make assumptions about others. You can’t tell a persons sexuality from the way they look. You can tell a persons family life by their personality. And you cannot tell a persons intelligence by the way they act.
ReplyDeleteSomething that is true about myself that people don't see publicly is that i'm genuinely a funny person. Usually when i'm around people who are more of my acquaintances and not so much my friends, i tend to be shy and not express who i am. I believe this is because i have a fear of rejection and acceptance. In some ways i do care about what other people think of me even though its a stupid way to spend my time thinking about what other people think of me. The fear of rejection and acceptance happens to a lot of people who were either altered by society or who have been raised and grown up by insecurity, and sometimes it happens to the best of people who have trouble finding a way to cope with it and change their ways to benefit themselves. The truth is people judge each other and somewhere deep inside everyone, there is a fear of being judged in some way, but no one fully understands who one is and the life they have lived.
ReplyDeleteSomething that I don't think people see about me is that I'm very caring. I really do care for the well-being of others and want to help them, but I'm never sure how. I know that some people don't want others to pay attention to them when they are crying, and some people want that attention to know that someone cares. The truth is, I do care, even if I don't know that person. I understand what it feels like to hurt, on various degrees and for various reasons, but I also understand that people are different and are comforted differently, so I usually opt for a sympathetic smile at them rather than taking action. I think some people may think that I am selfish, which can be true, but I'm not self centered. I think about others a lot, and I do my best to be considerate of them and not bother them. That doesn't always translate well though, and probably because I'm not good at communicating with people.
ReplyDeleteSomething that most people probably don’t realize about me is that I get easily paranoid. It’s usually not about anything big or important, but paranoia has always been a fault of mine. In my public life, I try to be a happy and carefree person; because that’s the me I like to be. Paranoia is kind of just there for certain situations. Maybe a lot of people get paranoid too, but I tend to overthink situations and make up scenarios that could potentially happen if something were to go wrong. Most people don’t know this about me mainly because I keep thoughts to myself because I like to tackle my own problems by myself. The paranoia will most likely always be there, but it’s better that it’s to myself because I like when everyone around me is happy, it just makes life more enjoyable.
ReplyDeleteSomething that I don’t think people don’t realize is that I care more about what people think of me, than I let off. I try to pretend that I don’t care because I’m not going to change for other people but things that people have said about me that have been negative stick with me for years. I still remember insults form elementary school! I want to be tough and not care what people thin of me but I do and I don’t think it shows in my everyday life. I also get very shy out of school when asking people to hang out because I don’t want to be an inconvenience to them, which is why I am kinda lonely most days. It’s not something that I an openly say but its something very personal about myself.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has a private self that they don't show the general public because they don't know how to translate that private self, or because they're embarrassed or whatever. A characteristic of my private self that I've never made a part of my public figure is my "literature oriented mind",as I like to call it. I do read for fun, most of the books we read in class are books I've already read. I do write for fun, searching for writing prompts online and writing is something I find enjoyable. Going to a school where if you're good at math and science but fail English it's okay because you're just "math oriented" but if you fail Math and have an A+ in English you're suddenly an idiot is something that's always stifled me. It's made me keep my love of literature to myself. I want to share my ideas more in class while we're interpreting passages of books or talking about motifs, but I feel that if it only makes sense to me nobody else will want to hear it. This is probably the biggest reason I can't translate my appreciation of literature to my public self. It's okay, though, having an English oriented mind is great to have in one's private life. Writing's a great outlet to let out every emotion known to man. If only I could make better use of it with my public self.
ReplyDeleteEverybody has their own private self that they do not share with others or others simply do not pick up on. For instance, people think that because I get good grades that I'm really smart or that I just focus on school. That's all wrong, I am not crazy smart but I usually work hard by doing all my work or studying in order to achieve good grades. Others might call this being a try hard but I am not the type of person that cares what others think about me unless the others are my family. People don't realize that other than school, I put in tons of time towards sports. I try to be well rounded but sometimes people judge me too fast. I don't really care but one thing that people don't really know about me is that I get anxiety because I sometimes put too much on my schedule and then stress over getting everything done to the best of my ability. I get anxiety because I stress out over little stuff sometimes. I can't really translate my anxiety to my public self because it is something that needs to be dealt with before I can tackle daily challenges. If I didn't get my anxiety out before I went out into public than I would probably be a mess. Also I can't show people that I am not naturally smart because I work hard to reach my goals and want to continue to do so. I believe that sometimes we need to keep our private self to ourselves rather than trying to put everything out there for the public.
ReplyDeletePublically my personality differs from my private self and the way people see me. The main emotions I feel many people try to tuck away is caring. Many people see me as a person who does not care about anything, a laid back, carefree type of girl. But inside my private self I analyze EVERYTHING. Many people can sense when someone is upset but in my case I could mask it no one would ever know. Now, don’t get me wrong I am usually happy as can be but even when I’m happy the amount I analyze any awkward, frightening, or sad situation is way more than anyone would assume from the way I handle myself. Being calm and happy is what my public self does to hide the constant thinking of my private self. I think most people go through this problem though as everyone at some extent acts like everything is fine even when it is not. The way everyone expresses their emotions is different and everyone’s public self is way different from their private self no matter how open, confident or happy they are.
ReplyDeleteI honestly believe that my public and private self is completely different. I wish I could be the person that I always say I'm going to be but I can never build up the courage to be as care-free as I want to be. One thing about myself that I have learned is that I enjoy being alone sometimes. I obviously love hanging out with my friends at times, but there are times when I would rather just be by myself in my room reading a book. Events that have previously happened to me have caused this to be the person I am. I know that I am the only person that will ever understand myself and how I think and no matter how close of friends I am with another person they won't understand me. I don't trust a lot of people now because as a child I used to trust people way to easily and people used to take advantage of that trait. As I've grown I realize that being by myself gives me time to think about a lot of things and just to sit down and relax. It's more of a precaution for myself to keep myself from being to open with people that I can't really trust. Over time I started to really enjoy the time I have to myself when I can just start reading a book and get caught up in a different world for a little bit and forget everything that is going on around me.
ReplyDeletePeople tend to all have different ways they act when they act around people they are familiar with and people they’re not. People tend to think that I’m very quiet and don't talk much. I tend to be somewhat nervous and hate being put on the spot. I tend to actually be quite talkative around people that I’m comfortable talking with, sometimes I just don’t know when to stop talking. I sometimes tend to ramble on about off topic subjects or fail to get my point or ideas across to other people. I’m just worried what people tend to think of me.
ReplyDeleteSomething that I know about my private self that many people would never guess or know unless they know me very well is that I am very shy and self conscious. These things make me awkward at times and make me uncomfortable at times. This is very frustrating to be because I try very hard to break the habits that I have developed from being shy and keeping to myself, but no matter what I do I cannot seem to be comfortable in many situations most people would think of as every day things. The only things that help me to feel comfortable around other people is sports. When I am playing sports or working out, it gives me a time where all I have to worry about is the game at hand, not my personal feelings and struggles.
ReplyDeleteI don't think there are many things that people think about me that are untrue. Most people probably think I'm very quiet and shy, and in some situations, I am. When I was younger, I cared a lot about what people thought of me, and that caused me to be very reserved. As I am getting older, I am caring less and less about what others think about me, and I think I'm also slowly getting less shy. However, I'm so used to being quiet in social situations with a lot of people or people I don't know that it can be difficult for me to come out of my shell. There are also somethings that I just don't want people to know about me. I don't think I'm ready for my private self to become my public self
ReplyDeleteOn the outside I appear as a relaxed dude who doesn’t care about goals or life after high school. On the inside I truly fear what comes next. My private self is ridden with stress and tension that controls my daily actions. Thoughts of my future scare the hell out of me. Although these thoughts sit in my head all day, I choose to block this mindset out from the general public. I want my friends and family to see me as good spirited kid rather than a paranoid freak whos always terrified to turn to the next page of his life. I don’t want for my peers to see me living my life cowardly, so I cover up this side of myself. When trying to translate this phobia to a friend it always comes out dysfunctionality. My view of the events to come are distorted compared to theirs which is the mainly why I keep this aversion to my private self.
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ReplyDeleteSomething about me that only i can understand is how i dont trust people. Meeting new people is never what i want to do because i know that oneday they may betray me. Some people mistake my fear of meeting new people as being snobby or rude, but ijust cant hlep it. I have had enough experience with people stabbing me in the back for a life time, so sometimes its not even worth the effort to make new friends. Once i get to know someone i don't keep everything hidden as much but when i first meet people it's hard to even talk to them. So some people may think that i am just being rude but it's just me protecting myself from getting hurt by new people.
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